In terms of friendship, analyzing one's behavior or motives is difficult because it's impossible to know what someone is truely thinking. We may think we know what is going on inside someone's head, but that's often not the case.
I think gays must take into account that a sizeable percentage of gays have addictive personalities-- be it alcohol, drugs, or recreational sex. Being high, or coming down from a high alters one's behavior.
Even if one doesn't have an addictive personality, gays and lesbians tend to have more stress factors in their lives. Coping with high levels of stress can make a person irritable and moody. Living in a homophobic world is not easy. Today a person may be your friend, but tomorrow is another story. We all have had FAIR WEATHER FRIENDS.
I think many gays have low self-esteem. When one has low self-worth and low-self esteem, we seek happiness by seeking love/lust with the newest "hot guy", ( one night stands ) and by material possessions. These pursuits are fleeting pursuits because the highs are very short-term. The cycle gains momentum because the bar is constantly being raised to a higher, and higher level.
Learn to 'talk" really talk with someone before your trust them with your feelings. By the very nature of gay men, we tend to "use" one another. Be careful to not fall into that pit. Have various kinds of friends. Not just one set group. YOU must try to be a friend. FRIENDS are forever, lovers come and go. You have to be a friend to have a friend. Be nice to everyone you meet, and always keep your guard up so you do not get hurt.
They are not really interested in you all they want is sex!!!! sex!!!!! if they get you that night that its your done. they treat you like a tissue paper. so be aware of this kind of people use your INSTINCT!!!!!!